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【TED】如何与陌生人建立信任?

 

I want to tell you the story 我想和你们分享一个故事, about the time I almost got kidnapped 关于我差点被绑到一辆 in the trunk of a red Mazda Miata. 红色马自达后备箱的故事。 It's the day after graduating from design school 那是从设计学校毕业之后第二天, and I'm having a yard sale. 我在后院里弄了个旧货拍卖。 And this guy pulls up in this red Mazda 这个家伙开着红色马自达过来了, and he starts looking through my stuff. 他停了车并开始打量我的东西。 And he buys a piece of art that I made. 最后,他买了一件我的艺术作品。 And it turns out he's alone in town for the night, 我得知他今晚在这个镇上 是孤身一人, driving cross-country on a road trip 他正在进行加入 美国和平队之前的 before he goes into the Peace Corps. 穿越美国的汽车旅行。 So I invite him out for a beer 于是我请他出去喝了一杯, and he tells me all about his passion 他跟我聊到关于 for making a difference in the world. 他想要改变世界的所有宏图大略。 Now it's starting to get late, 时间有点晚了, and I'm getting pretty tired. 我也挺累的了。 As I motion for the tab, 当我示意服务员结账时, I make the mistake of asking him, 我犯了个错误,就是问了他, "So where are you staying tonight?" “那你今晚住哪儿?” And he makes it worse by saying, 他说了一句话,情况就变得更糟了, "Actually, I don't have a place." “实际上,我没地方住。” And I'm thinking, "Oh, man!" 这时候我心想,“哦,天呐!” What do you do? 这可怎么办? We've all been there, right? 我们都遇到过这种情况,对吧? Do I offer to host this guy? 我应该让他住我这里吗? But, I just met him -- I mean, 我才刚认识他啊——我是说, he says he's going to the Peace Corps, 他说他是要去美国和平队, but I don't really know if he's going to the Peace Corps 但我哪知道他到底 是不是真的要去啊? and I don't want to end up kidnapped in the trunk of a Miata. 我才不想被绑在那个马自达的 后备箱里就这么玩儿完了。 That's a small trunk! 这后备箱也太小了! So then I hear myself saying, 之后我听到自己说, "Hey, I have an airbed you can stay on in my living room." “嗨,我还有个气垫床, 你可以睡在我客厅里。” And the voice in my head goes, 而我自己脑海中的声音是, "Wait, what?" “等等,你在干嘛啊?” That night, I'm laying in bed, 那一晚,我躺在床上, I'm staring at the ceiling and thinking, 盯着天花板开始想, "Oh my god, what have I done? “我的天,我到底做了什么?” There's a complete stranger sleeping in my living room. 怎么会让一个完全陌生的人 睡在我客厅里? What if he's psychotic?" 他要是有精神病该怎么办?" My anxiety grows so much, 我越来越不安, I leap out of bed, 于是从床上坐了起来, I sneak on my tiptoes to the door, 踮起脚尖偷偷溜到门前, and I lock the bedroom door. 锁上了卧室的门。 It turns out he was not psychotic. 当然,最后证明, 他没有精神病。 We've kept in touch ever since. 那以后我们还常常保持联系。 And the piece of art he bought at the yard sale 他把从我这里买的那个艺术品, is hanging in his classroom; he's a teacher now. 一直挂在他的教室里; 他现在是个老师。 This was my first hosting experience, 这就是我第一次留人住宿的经历, and it completely changed my perspective. 并且这件事彻底改变了我的看法。 Maybe the people that my childhood taught me to label as strangers 也许,在我童年时期 被定义为陌生人的那些人, were actually friends waiting to be discovered. 其实是等待被发现的朋友。 The idea of hosting people on airbeds gradually became natural to me 用气垫床留宿别人的想法 渐渐变得很自然, and when I moved to San Francisco, 当我搬去旧金山的时候, I brought the airbed with me. 我带上了我的气垫床。 So now it's two years later. 两年之后, I'm unemployed, I'm almost broke, 我失业了,几乎身无分文, my roommate moves out, and then the rent goes up. 我的室友搬走了, 要支付的租金也变多了。 And then I learn there's a design conference coming to town, 之后我听说, 镇上要开一个设计研讨会, and all the hotels are sold out. 但是所有的宾馆都被订满了。 And I've always believed that turning fear into fun 我一直坚信,把恐惧变成乐趣 is the gift of creativity. 是创造力给予我们的礼物。 So here's what I pitch my best friend and my new roommate Brian Chesky: 所以我马上开始拉拢我最好的朋友, 也是我的新室友Brian Chesky: "Brian, thought of a way to make a few bucks -- “Brian,我想到了个 挣零花钱的法子—— turning our place into 'designers bed and breakfast,' 把我们的住所改造成 "设计者之家"这么个地方, offering young designers who come to town a place to crash, 为匆忙来镇上开会的年轻设计师提供 complete with wireless Internet, a small desk space, 一个有无线网、小桌子、 sleeping mat, and breakfast each morning. 睡垫和每日早餐的地方。 Ha!" 不错吧!” We built a basic website and Airbed and Breakfast was born. 我们建了一个很简易的网页, “气垫床与早餐”就这样诞生了。 Three lucky guests got to stay 三个幸运的客人得以靠 on a 20-dollar airbed on the hardwood floor. 硬木地板上的廉价气垫床过夜。 But they loved it, and so did we. 不过他们很满意,我们也是。 I swear, the ham and Swiss cheese omelets we made 我发誓,我们为客人 准备的瑞士奶酪蛋卷 tasted totally different because we made them for our guests. 味道绝对与众不同, 因为是专门为客人准备的。 We took them on adventures around the city, 我们还带他们在城里兜风, and when we said goodbye to the last guest, 当我们向最后一个客人道别、 the door latch clicked, 锁好门之后, Brian and I just stared at each other. Brian和我对视了一下, 彼此心照不宣。 Did we just discover it was possible to make friends 我们是不是发现了一个既能交朋友, while also making rent? 又能收租金的好生意? The wheels had started to turn. 命运的轮子开始转动了。 My old roommate, Nate Blecharczyk, 我的旧室友,Nate Blecharcyzk joined as engineering co-founder. 加入了我们,成为了工程方面的 共同创始人。 And we buckled down to see 之后我们开始努力工作, if we could turn this into a business. 看看是否能以此成就大业。 Here's what we pitched investors: 这是我们向投资者传达的讯息: "We want to build a website “我们想建立一个这样的网站, where people publicly post pictures of their most intimate spaces, 让人们可以把他们最私密空间的照片, their bedrooms, the bathrooms -- 比如卧室和卫生间—— 这种别人来访时 the kinds of rooms you usually keep closed when people come over. 不方便进入的空间—— 发布到网站上。 And then, over the Internet, 然后,通过网络, they're going to invite complete strangers to come sleep in their homes. 他们还可以邀请陌生人 在家里暂住。 It's going to be huge!" 这会是个巨大的市场!“ (Laughter) (笑声) We sat back, and we waited for the rocket ship to blast off. 于是我们开始像等火箭升空一样, 坐等我们的事业蓬勃发展。 It did not. 但是,天不遂人愿。 No one in their right minds would invest in a service 没有人认为让陌生人 住在自己家里 that allows strangers to sleep in people's homes. 是个靠谱的主意, 我们也没有获得任何投资。 Why? 为什么? Because we've all been taught as kids, strangers equal danger. 因为我们从小就被教导, 陌生人 = 危险。 Now, when you're faced with a problem, you fall back on what you know, 当你遇到问题时,往往会 回想你所了解的东西, and all we really knew was design. 而我们所了解的,就只有设计。 In art school, you learn that design is much more 在艺术学校里,你会学到, 设计不仅仅关乎外表和感觉—— than the look and feel of something -- it's the whole experience. 而是整体的体验。 We learned to do that for objects, 我们在学校学的是物品设计, but here, we were aiming to build Olympic trust 但是在这里,我们的目标是 要让素未谋面的人们 between people who had never met. 彼此产生奥林匹克式的信任。 Could design make that happen? 设计能做到这一点吗? Is it possible to design for trust? 设计可能会带来“信任”吗? I want to give you a sense of the flavor of trust 我想带你们体验一下 that we were aiming to achieve. 我们所要实现的“信任”的感觉。 I've got a 30-second experiment 我会进行一个三十秒的实验, that will push you past your comfort zone. 会把你们推出孰悉的舒适区。 If you're up for it, give me a thumbs-up. 如果你准备好了,请竖起你的大拇指! OK, I need you to take out your phones. 好,我需要各位拿出你们的手机。 Now that you have your phone out, 手机都拿出来了吧, I'd like you to unlock your phone. 现在请把手机解锁, Now hand your unlocked phone to the person on your left. 现在请把你解锁后的手机 递给你左手边的人。 (Laughter) (笑声) That tiny sense of panic you're feeling right now -- 现在你们正感觉到的小小的不安—— (Laughter) (笑声) is exactly how hosts feel the first time they open their home. 就是那些提供住宿的人 第一次敞开家门的感觉。 Because the only thing more personal than your phone 因为能比你的手机更私密的 is your home. 就是你家了。 People don't just see your messages, 人们不仅会看到你的短信, they see your bedroom, 还会看到你的卧室, your kitchen, your toilet. 你的厨房,你的卫生间。 Now, how does it feel holding someone's unlocked phone? 现在,拿着别人解锁的手机感觉如何? Most of us feel really responsible. 我们大多数人都会 本能地生出一丝责任感。 That's how most guests feel when they stay in a home. 这就是大部分房客在住宿时的感觉。 And it's because of this that our company can even exist. 这也是为什么我们的公司 到现在仍然存在的原因。 By the way, who's holding Al Gore's phone? 顺便问一句,你们谁拿到了 Al Gore(前美国副总统)的手机? (Laughter) (笑声) Would you tell Twitter he's running for President? 你能在推特上发一下, 他准备要参选总统了吗? (Laughter) (笑声) (Applause) (鼓掌) OK, you can hand your phones back now. 好了,现在你们可以换回手机了。 So now that you've experienced the kind of trust challenge 那么各位已经体验了 我们曾经面对过的 we were facing, 信任方面的挑战, I'd love to share a few discoveries we've made along the way. 我十分愿意通过这种方式 来分享我们的发现。 What if we changed one small thing 如果我们对这次实验的设计 about the design of that experiment? 进行一个小改动呢? What if your neighbor had introduced themselves first, with their name, 如果这次实验是你的邻居 首先介绍他们自己,他们的名字, where they're from, the name of their kids or their dog? 从哪儿来,他们的孩子, 或者小狗的名字呢? Imagine that they had 150 reviews of people saying, 想象一下,随后有150个人 评价了他们, "They're great at holding unlocked phones!" “他们很擅长拿着解锁的手机!” (Laughter) (笑声) Now how would you feel about handing your phone over? 现在你们觉得把手机 交出去感觉怎么样? It turns out, 事实证明, a well-designed reputation system is key for building trust. 一个精心设计的信誉体系 是建立信任的关键。 And we didn't actually get it right the first time. 我们也并不是初次就成功了。 It's hard for people to leave bad reviews. 要让人们留下负面的评论 其实挺难的。 Eventually, we learned to wait until both guests and hosts 最终,我们学到了 在展示所有的信息之前, left the review before we reveal them. 需要先等待房东与房客 都留下评论。 Now, here's a discovery we made just last week. 我们上周才发现一件事。 We did a joint study with Stanford, 我们与斯坦福大学合作进行合作, where we looked at people's willingness to trust someone 以年龄、居住地 和地理环境相似度为基础, based on how similar they are in age, location and geography. 调查了人们对其他人的信任程度。 The research showed, not surprisingly, 研究得出了一个意料之中的结果, we prefer people who are like us. 我们更喜欢与我们相似的人。 The more different somebody is, 与我们差异越大的人, the less we trust them. 我们越是不信任他们。 Now, that's a natural social bias. 这是一种与生俱来的社会偏见。 But what's interesting is what happens 不过有趣的是,当你把信誉 when you add reputation into the mix, 放在一起考虑的时候会发生什么, in this case, with reviews. 在这里也就是评价。 Now, if you've got less than three reviews, 如果你得到的评价少于三条, nothing changes. 什么都不会改变。 But if you've got more than 10, 但是如果你得到超过10条评价, everything changes. 所有事情就会发生变化。 High reputation beats high similarity. 这时候,高的信誉评价就会 比高相似度更可信。 The right design can actually help us overcome 正确的设计可以帮助我们克服 one of our most deeply rooted biases. 扎根心底的认知偏差。 Now we also learned that building the right amount of trust 我们也发现要想得到 多少信任,就得 takes the right amount of disclosure. 公开多少我们自己的信息。 This is what happens when a guest first messages a host. 接下来就是房客第一次 发信息给房东时的情况。 If you share too little, like, "Yo," 如果你自我介绍得太少,比如,“呦,” acceptance rates go down. 那么你的接受率就会下降。 And if you share too much, like, 如果你说太多,比如, "I'm having issues with my mother," “我跟我妈闹翻了,” (Laughter) (笑声) acceptance rates also go down. 接受率也会走低。 But there's a zone that's just right, 不过也是有适当的表达, like, "Love the artwork in your place. Coming for vacation with my family." 比如,“喜欢你房间的艺术品, 打算和家人一起去度假。” So how do we design for just the right amount of disclosure? 那么,要如何确定 怎样才是适当的表达呢? We use the size of the box to suggest the right length, 我们通过消息盒子的大小 来建议房客合适的字数, and we guide them with prompts to encourage sharing. 而且我们还适度地引导 并鼓励他们分享。 We bet our whole company 我们通过好的设计, on the hope that, 把整个公司 with the right design, 都押在这样一个希望上, people would be willing to overcome the stranger-danger bias. 人们愿意克服 畏惧陌生人的偏见。 What we didn't realize 但是我们并没有意识到 is just how many people 到底有多少人 were ready and waiting to put the bias aside. 已经准备好去克服这种偏见了。 This is a graph that shows our rate of adoption. 这是我们订单接受率的图表。 There's three things happening here. 这张图表说明了三件事。 The first, an unbelievable amount of luck. 第一,运气好得难以置信。 The second is the efforts of our team. 第二,这是我们团队努力的成果。 And third is the existence of a previously unsatisfied need. 第三,我们之前所做的 还并不完全令人满意。 Now, things have been going pretty well. 现在,事情正在越变越好。 Obviously, there are times when things don't work out. 但不可否认,我们也出过一些问题。 Guests have thrown unauthorized parties 比如客人不经主人同意举办派对, and trashed homes. 并且把家里弄得一团糟。 Hosts have left guests stranded in the rain. 还有,房客滞留在雨中无法入住, 房东却坐视不管。 In the early days, I was customer service, 在事业早期,我也承担过客服工作, and those calls came right to my cell phone. 这些电话一个接一个 打到我的手机。 I was at the front lines of trust breaking. 我处在信任破裂的最前线。 And there's nothing worse than those calls, 实在是没什么要比这些电话更糟了, it hurts to even think about them. 任何时候想起来都会觉得心痛。 And the disappointment in the sound of someone's voice 电话那头的声音透露出的失望, was and, I would say, still is 说实话,始终都是 our single greatest motivator to keep improving. 我们不停改进的最大动力。 Thankfully, out of the 123 million nights we've ever hosted, 感谢上帝,在我们为 1.23亿个客户安排了住宿之后, less than a fraction of a percent have been problematic. 解决不了的问题越来越少了。 Turns out, people are justified in their trust. 这也说明人们调整了 他们关于信任的态度。 And when trust works out right, 而信任一旦上了正确的轨道, it can be absolutely magical. 不可思议的事情就会发生。 We had a guest stay with a host in Uruguay, 我们曾经有一个房客 在乌拉圭住宿的时候, and he suffered a heart attack. 遭遇了突发的心脏病。 The host rushed him to the hospital. 房东把他送到医院急救, They donated their own blood for his operation. 还为他的手术献了血。 Let me read you his review. 让我向各位读一读他的评价: (Laughter) (笑声) "Excellent house for sedentary travelers “这是一间对需要久坐, 容易心肌梗塞的 prone to myocardial infarctions. 旅行者来说极好的房子。 (Laughter) (笑声) The area is beautiful and has direct access to the best hospitals. 这个区域环境优美, 而且有一条直通顶级医院的道路。 (Laughter) (笑声) Javier and Alejandra instantly become guardian angels Javier和Alejandra是那种就算不认识你 who will save your life without even knowing you. 也会立刻救你命的守护天使。 They will rush you to the hospital in their own car while you're dying 当你快要不行了的时候, 他们会急忙开车带你去医院急救, and stay in the waiting room while the doctors give you a bypass. 在你做搭桥手术的时候 他们也会在等候室等着你。 They don't want you to feel lonely, they bring you books to read. 他们不想让你感到孤独, 还会带书来给你读。 And they let you stay at their house extra nights without charging you. 并且之后他们还会 多留你几晚并且不收一分钱。 Highly recommended!" 强力推荐!” (Applause) (掌声) Of course, not every stay is like that. 当然,并不是所有人住宿时 都会发生这样的事情。 But this connection beyond the transaction 但是,这种超越交易的联系 is exactly what the sharing economy is aiming for. 就是“分享经济”要达到的目标。 Now, when I heard that term, 当我听到这个词的时候, I have to admit, it tripped me up. 我得承认,我的思路真的有点跟不上。 How do sharing and transactions go together? 如何把分享和交易绑到一起? So let's be clear; it is about commerce. 所以让我们来理清这件事; 这与商业有关。 But if you just called it the rental economy, 不过,如果你只是把这叫做“房租经济”, it would be incomplete. 还不算是很完整的定义。 The sharing economy is commerce with the promise of human connection. “分享经济”是人们交流承诺的商业行为。 People share a part of themselves, 人们把自己的一部分分享出来, and that changes everything. 之后一切就改变了。 You know how most travel today is, like, 大家知道,现在的旅行就像, I think of it like fast food -- 我想就像快餐—— it's efficient and consistent, 高效而且大同小异, at the cost of local and authentic. 但却牺牲了当地的风土人情。 What if travel were like a magnificent buffet 如果旅行更像是当地风味的 of local experiences? 豪华自助餐呢? What if anywhere you visited, 如果你在每个游览的地方 there was a central marketplace of locals 都能在当地中心集市里 offering to get you thoroughly drunk 一个你完全不认识社区酒吧 on a pub crawl in neighborhoods you didn't even know existed. 喝到酩酊大醉。 Or learning to cook from the chef of a five-star restaurant? 或者是从一个五星级酒店的 大厨那里学做菜? Today, homes are designed around the idea of privacy and separation. 现如今,房子的设计理念都 以私隐和分隔为主。 What if homes were designed to be shared from the ground up? 要是房子的设计从一开始 就融入了分享的概念会怎么样呢? What would that look like? 看起来会如何呢? What if cities embraced a culture of sharing? 如果城市拥抱了分享的文化呢? I see a future of shared cities that bring us community and connection 我可以预见到,未来这些分享的城市 会为我们带来更多的共同点和联系, instead of isolation and separation. 而不是孤独与分离。 In South Korea, in the city of Seoul, 在韩国,首尔这个城市, they've actually even started this. 人们已经着手开始行动了。 They've repurposed hundreds of government parking spots 他们把数以百计的政府停车位 to be shared by residents. 改造之后分享给市民们使用。 They're connecting students who need a place to live 他们将需要住宿的学生 with empty-nesters who have extra rooms. 与有空房间的房东联系起来。 And they've started an incubator to help fund the next generation 他们还设立了孵化器, 为下一代“分享经济”的 of sharing economy start-ups. 初创公司提供资金支持。 Tonight, just on our service, 今晚,仅仅通过我们的服务平台, 785,000 people 就有来自191个国家, in 191 countries 78.5万的人, will either stay in a stranger's home 要么会留宿在陌生人家里, or welcome one into theirs. 要么是在准备欢迎陌生人来家里住。 Clearly, it's not as crazy as we were taught. 很明显,事实并没有我们小时候 被教育得那么夸张。 We didn't invent anything new. 我们其实并没有发明什么新的东西。 Hospitality has been around forever. 热情好客也是传统美德。 There's been many other websites like ours. 甚至也有很多和我们差不多的网站。 So, why did ours eventually take off? 但是为什么我们最后会越做越大? Luck and timing aside, 抛开运气与时机的原因, I've learned that you can take the components of trust, 我想我们在这里学到的 很重要的一点就是信任, and you can design for that. 并且通过设计来实现它。 Design can overcome our most deeply rooted 设计可以帮我们克服 stranger-danger bias. 根植于内心的 陌生等于危险的偏见。 And that's amazing to me. 这一点让我很受鼓舞。 It blows my mind. 也让我觉得耳目一新。 I think about this every time I see a red Miata go by. 每次看到红色马自达驶过, 我都会想到这些。 Now, we know design won't solve all the world's problems. 现在,我们知道设计不能 解决世界上所有的难题。 But if it can help out with this one, 但是如果能帮助我们解决这件事, if it can make a dent in this, 能让这件事取得初步的进展, it makes me wonder, what else can we design for next? 这不禁让我想到,接下来 我们还能设计些什么呢? Thank you. 谢谢! (Applause) (掌声)

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